Imagine it like this:'Would you like to go out this weekend?
' (bad)'I'm going to this cool exhibition (or whatever) this weekend, come!
Yet no car will affect your life nearly as much as your spouse.
Will honest answers to these 12 questions either help you marry well or avoid a marriage that can make your life miserable? Ask any married or divorced person who will open up to you whether these questions need to be answered. Not the never-married, like you, who usually know nothing about marriage.
Watch how he or she treats waitresses, employees, family members and anyone else he/she comes into contact with. Here is a rule that is rarely broken: Whatever problems you have before the wedding day, you will have during your marriage. The more you share, especially values, the better your chances of a good marriage. If you are basically happy, do not think for a moment that you can make an unhappy person happy by marrying him or her.
Nevertheless, if there is insufficient physical attraction after all other criteria are met and time has passed, you may be in the tragic position of having to end a relationship with a great man or woman. Does the person have a number of good friends and at least one very close friend of the same sex?
It is a bad sign if the person you are thinking of marrying does not have good friends (including of long duration) of the same sex. This alone should rule out the person from consideration. It should go without saying that if the person is not kind to you, quit while you can. Yes, men are better at being distracted by work, sports, computer games, the opposite sex, and God knows what else, but it is not a good sign if you rarely miss her when not together. Having written a best-selling book on happiness and lectured on the subject on all seven continents, I am tempted write a book-length book explanation of just this question.
crop=1xw:1xh;center,top&resize=768:*" /Q: Whenever I even think about asking someone out I just get nervous and panicky and end up bottling it completely...
Do you have any advice for asking someone out without looking like a rabbit in the headlights or a complete lunatic (or, worse, both)?