Dating the second time around

Making that connection may be the first step in forming a new relationship. Change your Routine It’s easy to get into a rut when you’re living alone, especially if you don’t feel like socializing.But seeing your single status as a chance for discovery will not only expand your life, it also will help you meet people. Why wasn’t I getting reciprocal lovey-doveyness when we were first married? From Disney movies to my favorite shows like “The Office” to practically every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married. And that’s why my wife just gave me that half-smile. And now that I’ve tried to change the way I look at love, the more I become shocked at the messages of love I had gotten when I was younger. And even when I let it out of my chest, it wasn’t love. Telling someone you love them doesn’t mean that you do.Picture this: Joe and Lisa are meeting for the first time. The atmosphere is welcoming, the music soothing, and the lattés tasty.

As thousands of people can testify, it really is possible to meet your soul mate online.

At times the gift is large—sitting up with a sick child so your partner can rest. No matter when it comes around, grab hold, hang on, and see how high you can fly.

Other times it’s more mundane, like making the bed each morning when you get up.

That sort of freedom is fertile ground for sweeter love than you’ve ever known. As Joni Mitchell’s classic song says, “Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone? Losing everything you had in a relationship is a sure way to learn what things you’d been taking for granted all along.

When you’ve regained them in a new lover, odds are good you’ll be more grateful than ever before. Once you’ve lived through a relationship loss, you know well that love isn’t free—you’ve got to pay your way by giving of yourself every day.


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